Love yourself first. Learn to be at peace with yourself. Be happy on your own. Marriage will only make you happier, not happy. It is important to have a good relationship with God because he is the giver of joy, peace and happiness. I myself got baptized with the Holy Spirit during the waiting period. Identify if there is still any hurt or trauma from past relationships. Fix yourself inside before you go find someone, you give what you have.
Fix yourself outside. Take care of yourself. Look good, look confident. Don’t be shy to dress up. From the hair to the toes. Do your makeup, do your nails. Does not have to be expensive. A woman of God knows how to be resourceful. Exercise! Be in good shape and health. Don’t go half naked to try to impress men. Every day is a day you should expect to meet your Prince Charming. Look like you are a happily married woman ( my husband thought I was married!😀)
Teach your hands to do all the married women responsibilities ie the basic house chores! Cooking, cleaning, ironing, baking, making your bed, decorating the house. You will be so surprised how many women cannot do this. They cannot manage a sink full of dishes but they are busy asking God to bring someone in their life. You can’t manage your own mess. How about two people’s mess? Be warned most men are not very tidy. It’s the women who really keep the house in order. So you gotta be on top of the situation. When you are an all rounder, a hardworking woman, a clean woman you are putting yourself in a good position to be blessed quick.
Describe in detail to God the person you want. Write it down. Write a prayer request. Make a copy if you have to leave it at church. This is important when you look back at your miracle.
Pray without ceasing. Pray without doubt. Have faith that it’s only a matter of time. 1 Corinthians says the single woman should be concerned about the the things of the Lord, fully devoted to serving the Lord. The married woman should be concerned on serving her husband. The single days are the days to truly serve the Lord. Keep yourself busy with the things of God. When you marry, believe it or not, you cannot serve God fully. Your marriage, your husbands is a full time job. If you want a blessed marriage you have to invest in it. God knew exactly what He was saying.I had to give up being full member in the Godllywood group in my church. It’s very intense and very serious. I love the group but I had to adjust. I had to give up being a Sunday school teacher even though I love kids.
Don’t throw yourself to each and every man that comes your way. Let God lead you. Don’t be shy to tell the people you trust that you are searching. A lot of good marriages came through connections. Enlarge your territory. Don’t be confined to one place. Let God’s will be done. Do not say I just want a man from my tribe, my city, my race, my country. For me I left it open. Was ready to marry anyone from everywhere as long as he was a man of God, a good man.
Don’t be anxious. Don’t be worried. I know the biological clock is ticking but pray about it. Don’t be jealousy of people who are getting married. Be happy for them. God cannot give you what you don’t want someone else to have. Support your friends who are getting married. Never go to a wedding without a gift. You are building your own blessing. You are planting in your own field.
Do not try to find a perfect man. No one like this exists. We are all work in progress. Look at his potential. Maybe he is not rich now but he is going to school. Maybe he does not pray strong like you but he is faithful coming to church and you see the transformation. Maybe he has a small job but he just started working. As long as he is hardworking, give him a chance. Our gifts sometimes do not come in the packages we expect.
How do you know he is the one? Because for us Christians love life is a real spiritual warfare! The devil hates marriages because they are the foundation of families. He will always want to cause confusion. Most of the time he will be the first to send you a man. Open your eyes! Watch and pray. If the man is from God you can tell by his character, his approach, , his respect. Go back to your prayer request. Is he the type of man you have asked for? Do you have peace about it all? How transparent is he about his life? Do you know his family? Consult a trusted man or woman of God to help you watch. If you still find yourself without any doubts, he is the one. Nip it in the bud and wait on God if he is not the one. For me I asked God for so many confirmations. His age, and his picture when I spoke to him in the early morning hours. Enquire from the Lord. He will give you a sign. Happy waiting ladies ! And happy searching. It’s a beautiful time, enjoy it 😋💕🌺
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